What Do Men Want? Part 1
After working with men for more than 30 years, I’ve boiled my list of things I think men want down to three:
Something they can give their lives to—a cause
Someone to share it with—relationships
A System that gives a reasonable explanation for why 1 and 2 are so difficult
Let’s spend three weeks on this. This week: #1.
Ernest Shackleton ran this famous ad to recruit men for his 1914 polar expedition of the Antarctic…
MEN WANTED for Hazardous Journey. Small wages, bitter cold, long months of complete darkness, constant danger, safe return doubtful. Honour and recognition in case of success.
He only needed 27 men, yet 5,000 applied! Why? Because they wanted to do something with their lives that could make a difference.
In the movie Black Hawk Down a soldier said to his superior, “You really believe in this mission down to your very bones, don’t you Sergeant.”
The Sergeant replied, “These people don’t have jobs, no food, no education, no future. I figure we have two things we can do: We can help, or we can sit back and watch the country destroy itself on CNN. I was trained to fight, how about you? I was trained to make a difference.”
Men do want to make a difference. However, like the Sergeant in Black Hawk Down, we need to be trained. Lots of men talk about wanting to make a difference. Only a few are willing to train and pay the price to be ready when their moment comes.
Training is a big deal. 25% of Secret Service duty is training—their credo: “Repetitive training to overcome the negatives of self-sacrifice.” For lack of training, a lot of men have not been able to make a difference.
This year let’s focus on training so we can make the difference we all want to make. Hopefully, that will include some training to better disciple your family and your men.
For the glory of Christ and no other reason…