Why (Some) Pastors Hate Men’s Ministry: Reason #1
A lot of pastors love men’s ministry, but most don’t — some even hate it. That’s not to say that pastors don’t want to see men become disciples — they do. But pastors quickly realize that men’s “only” ministry has the potential to reach but a small fraction of men in their churches.
Their previous men’s ministry efforts have started with a bang, but quickly fizzled out. They just don’t see how it’s worth the investment of time and emotional energy. For them, men’s ministry is a distraction.
I don’t blame them. Realistically, what percentage of your men do you think you could get to consistently participate in a men’s “only” ministry over the next five years? 10%? 20%? Maybe even 30%? Is that really the best way to disciple men?
Let’s look at this through the other end of the telescope. Instead of trying to get all your men into men’s “only” ministry — a nonstarter — develop a “let’s disciple men wherever they are” mind set. Instead of getting men to come to us, let’s go to them.
Instead of trying to take men away from existing church ministries and “sell” them into a men’s “only” ministry, leave men where they are and disciple them there. We call this the “all-inclusive men’s discipleship mindset.”
Don’t ask your pastor, “Can we start a men’s ministry?”
Instead, ask, “How are we already discipling men?” (to not ask this question is to insult your pastor), and, “What can I do to help you more effectively disciple every man in our church?”
These are very different questions — ones that just might turn hate into love.
Yours for changed lives,
Patrick Morley, Ph.D.