564 – Collateral Damage From the “Men Problem”
When you see a single mom waiting tables, what’s really going on? One young woman put it like this: “When my parents divorced I didn’t just lose my dad. I lost my mom too, because suddenly she had to take two jobs in order to take care of my sister and me.”
As recently as 1970, 85% of children lived with two parents (US Census Bureau). By 2009, children living with two married parents had dropped precipitously to only 65%. Today there are 74,000,000 children in the United States under the age of 18. That means 26,000,000 children, 35% of them, do not live with two married parents. Those children are 500% likely to have behavioral problems and end up in poverty.
That single mom waiting tables–working hard to make a living–might be on food stamps, living with her parents, and depending on her mom to take care of her child because she can’t afford day care. She’s struggling to do the work of two. In one-parent homes, it’s the dad who is absent 96% of the time.
The American family is in deep crisis; it’s not because of women and it’s not because of children. The America family is in crisis because a lot of men are in trouble. The collateral damage for women and children is staggering.
Men, if your family is in trouble, isn’t it time to ask for help from your church and some mature Christian men? If you’re in good shape, isn’t it time to reach out to a man whose family seems to be falling apart? However we got into the family crisis, the only solution is to disciple our way out.