|Written by Patrick Morley|
|Monday, March 19 2012 00:00|
NOTE: At FUEL, Man in the Mirror's 2012 Leadership Summit, we presented eight tools that leaders can use with their men. Over eight weeks we're presenting them to you, too. This week we're featuring an idea from Jeff Kisiah, a men's pastor and member of Man in the Mirror's Board of Directors. Jeff has 165 men in their church and has personally, so far, had a Barnabas Lunch Appointment (or other 1-1 gatherings) with 143 of his men. Coach K is very committed to knowing his men. Click here to download the PDF version.
Pastor Jeff "Coach K" Kisiah
A Barnabas Lunch Appointment is an opportunity for you as a leader to intentionally spend time with men in a one-on-one interaction. The goal of these meetings is to provide a safe environment where they can freely "raise the window shade."
Here's how to use this strategy to increase your impact on men's lives:
Keep a journal of your meetings both to track a man's progress on his spiritual journey and to see what God is doing over time. I use a spreadsheet like this one. It's useful as a prayer guide, ministry review, record for your next BLA, and reminder of God's hand in these men's lives.
Here are some ministry objectives for this weekly "BLA Tour:"
Here is some feedback I have received from BLA attendees:
"I've really appreciated the time at our BLAs...whether talking about personal issues, family issues or ministry concerns, it's a great experience. I also appreciate the fact that you are willing to share some of what's happening in your own life. You're not just a pastor that is seen only on Sundays...that's encouraging!" -- Mike, police detective
"These gatherings have allowed for my 'window shade' to truly be raised in order to reveal who I really am. I have found that building trust (which is achieved in this 1-1 venue) has allowed me to share more honestly, show my vulnerability, and even exposing my weaknesses. I believe it to be one of the most "breakthrough" tools in your MVP ministry, yet probably the most simple!"-- Ellis, graphic designer
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