Working With "Pent Up" Men
|Written by Patrick Morley|
|Monday, February 02 2004 10:28|
How to Help Sick Model and Well Model Men Get Better
A lot of men we meet in our ministries are what we might call “pent up.” When we talk to them we get the feeling they don’t have many friends—they have a backlog of “unprocessed feelings.” How can you help them?
Step 1: Notice “Pent Up” Men
Step 2: Listen to “Pent Up” Men
Step 3: Determine Whether “Sick Model” or “Well Model”
Step 4: Connect the “Well-Model” Pent Up Man
Step 5: Refer the “Sick Model” Pent Up Man
Once you have a man who has told you the same problem several times, and he has rejected your advice, it’s time to challenge him. For example, “Bob, your problem is beyond my training. I really think you could benefit from professional Christian counseling. I’ve been through counseling myself and found it very helpful. I have the names of two that I highly recommend. How does that sound to you?” You will often find men have been to many counselors, and they really don’t want to change. These men will drain every bit of emotional energy you have unless you put up some boundaries. Others will embrace the idea. They will get better. Their marriages will be restored, their children will come around, joy will return, you will feel the unbelievable satisfaction of helping a man change his life by becoming a disciple of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
For the glory of Christ and no other reason,