Three Things All Men Want
This article was originally published as a part of the series titled “Just A Thought”
“What do you want out of life?” The best way for us to reach men is to give them what they need (the Gospel) in the context of what they want.
So, what do we want because we are men? After 28 years of ministering to men here’s where I come out….
First, something we can give our lives to-a mission or cause. This is the need to be significant, to make a difference, that our lives will count, that it will matter we lived. No man wants to be a shooting star that streaks across the sky one night, then disappears.
Second, someone to share it with. This is the need to love and be loved, to be part of a community, to find acceptance.
Third, a “system” that offers a reasonable explanation for why 1 and 2 are so difficult. Frederick Taylor, the father of Scientific Management, said, “Your system is perfectly designed to produce the result you are getting.” What he meant was that if you manufacture cars and every third car rolls off the assembly line missing a front right fender, your system is perfectly designed to produce that result. Belief systems also “perfectly” produce predictable results. The Gospel of Jesus is the only “system” that has ever been able to offer an adequate and redemptive explanation for why life is so messy.
All a man’s needs are satisfied in the Gospel of Jesus. He is the cause, He is the someone, He is the “system” which explains the meaning and purpose of life.
Leaders, does it not make sense that the most effective methods of spiritual formation and discipleship will address these three wants? Let’s give men what they need in the context of these three wants.
© 2002 Patrick M. Morley. All rights reserved. This article may be reproduced for any non-commercial use with proper attribution.