How To Build a Men’s Ministry Where There Is No Support
Last week we ended on the depressing note of several failed attempts at starting a men’s ministry. Knowledge, however, is a powerful tutor—to know why something doesn’t work is usually a necessary precursor to figure out what will work.
This week we move on to how you can build men’s ministry in a church not warm (or even hostile) to men’s ministry.
What’s the secret? The secret is that you don’t need a “program” to disciple men. Programs are valuable, but not necessary. Further, if you actually begin producing disciples, a smart pastor is going to support you and give you, within reason, whatever you want to get it done.
It’s Relationships, Not a Program.
If you can’t get support for a men’s ministry program (or even if you can), you can still disciple men to be Godly men, husbands, and fathers. (Programs often fail, anyway). Here’s how. Invite a small group of 4 to 8 men to work out together what it means to be a man of God in a broken world. First, find a small group resource (we can help you—ping me at firstname.lastname@example.org, tell me what you’re after, and we’ll make some recommendations). Second, invite men to join you for a six week study. Third, love them and help them talk about the resource you’re studying. Fourth, at the end of six weeks, ask them for six more weeks. Fifth, repeat.
Most meaningful change takes place in the context of relationships, anyway. It’s really about building relationships, not about building a program. Later, when the pastor sees men’s lives changing, he will welcome the opportunity to help you get others involved in more small groups—i.e., to organize what you’ve done into a “program.” But that will be a program built on the solid foundation of results. In other words, don’t ask for resources to support a “theory.” Let the “evidence” speak for itself.
So, one way to build a men’s ministry where there is no support is to focus on building relationships with men in a small group, rather than trying to start a program. In fact, that’s the way to do it even if you do have support.
Next week we’ll talk about some different approaches you might take in your small group.
Together in the Battle for Men’s Souls,