70 Things – Abiding in Christ, Accountability, Anger
Abiding in Christ, Accountability, Anger
The last chapter in Pastoring Men is titled, “70 Things Every Man Needs to Know.” Starting October 1, I’m going to introduce a portion from one of those 70 things each day on The Man in the Mirror one minute radio program which (mostly) airs on the Moody Network.
Just a thought….If you would like me to pass along these scripts two or three at a time, email me at email@example.com and let me know!
1. Abiding in Christ
Men, today I want us to think about what it means to abide in Christ. It means to “hold to his teaching.” Jesus said that’s what really makes us his disciples (John 8:31-32). A friend had bills piling up. He couldn’t sleep. The stress was killing him. One day he stared at a huge pile of bills on his desk. He snapped, but in a good way. He said, “God, I apologize. I’ve taken over control of what is rightfully yours. I’m grouchy and neglecting my family. Right now, by faith, I give you back control over my affairs.” He went home and slept like a baby, and his bills all got paid too. That’s what it looks like to abide in Christ. Are you there yet?
Men, today I want us to think about accountability. Most of our lives are lived at the cliché level. An accountable relationship is one that gets past “news, sports, and weather.” Accountability means to be regularly answerable for each of the key areas of our lives to qualified people. Get with a group of men and give each other permission to ask each other how you are really doing. Meet regularly. Weekly is good, but not less than monthly. By phone is okay. “Key areas” mean relationships with God, wife, children; use of time and money; moral and ethical behavior; and any areas of personal struggle. Wives make great accountability partners.
Men, today I want us to see that there’s a huge difference between getting angry and having “an angry spirit.” Anger is “a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a real or perceived wrong.” An angry spirit, on the other hand, is always on the verge of boiling over. To have an angry spirit is to be easily provoked to anger. Ecclesiastes 7:9 says, “Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.” Unresolved anger is like walking around with a volcano inside you–never knowing when it might erupt, or why. Is your anger normal, or do you have an angry spirit?
Yours for changed lives,
Patrick Morley, PhD
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