547 – Do You Feel Like Nobody Cares?
I called three close friends for prayer about an important business meeting. If the meeting went badly it would be financial ruin. If the meeting went well, there would be other problems to solve but I would be okay.
I went to the meeting. It went fine. A week went by. None of my three friends called to see how it went. I was devastated. In fact, it destroyed my trust in the concept of friendship. I concluded that people really don’t care. That’s because in the same situation, I know I would have made that call. But earlier this week I was praying through the requests from our leader retreat just one month ago. I was stunned that I had forgotten 80% of the prayer requests–all of them major. It was an epiphany. I had forgotten important things about people I love and admire, but not because I don’t care. It was because I am finite and weak, not all-knowing and never-forgetting.
Now I regret all those years when I thought nobody cared. Obviously, some didn’t. It was their pattern. But most were just being human and, besides, you never really know what the other person is up against. They are just as likely to feel like you don’t care about them. There is no higher calling than to be a faithful friend–to love people the way Jesus tells us to love people. “Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find?” (Proverbs 20:6).