Why Your Pastor Won’t Support Men’s Ministry
There are legitimate reasons why some pastors won’t support men’s ministry. Pastors are busy people with many responsibilities to a multitude of constituencies. Said spiritually, they are shepherds of a flock. It is not only a high calling, but a demanding one as well. How many pastors have a lot of free time?
Many pastors have been burned by men’s ministry. In the past they have supported it, thrown resources at it, defended it, invested time, and given it creative energy. But men’s ministry didn’t want to work. This was repeated over two, three, maybe four cycles of failed attempts.
Think of it this way…
SCENE ONE: You own a business. You always look for the best opportunities. Someone brings you an idea. It excites you, and lines up with your vision. So you empower them to pursue it, and you throw some resources at the idea. It turns out badly. Lost time, money, burned out people, discouragement, disappointment, recriminations, finger pointing, lost momentum, missed opportunities, and more.
SCENE TWO: Two years later, someone else wants to try the same idea again. You think, Maybe it was leadership. This person seems very competent. Maybe he will be able to make a go of it. So you say, “Yes,” again. Then he fails. Meanwhile, you have pumped a lot of time, money, and people into this idea twice over.
SCENE THREE: Three years later, one of your best employees—one that you can’t afford to alienate and lose—wants to take on the idea that has already twice failed. What do you do? You say, “Yes,” because you don’t want to lose a good person and, besides, maybe he can make a go of it. He fails.
SCENE FOUR: Several years later, long after you have written off this particular business idea as a non-starter, one of your “different” employees gets all revved up about the idea that has now three times failed. By different, let’s just say “not the kind of person that other people line up to follow.” By now, you have such a low perception of the workability of the idea, you are so busy with other ideas that seem to work, and the person pressuring you to give it a go has such little equity, you finally put your foot down and say, “No.” (Or you just let it get lost in the queue of decisions to be made).
I know this sounds depressing to the point of saying, “What’s the use, then?” That is the voice of the devil. The devil wants nothing more than for us to quit the battle for men’s souls. If the devil can get us to “give up on men,” then he has won not only the battle but the war.
Is there a way to overcome the scenario just painted? Unequivocally, “Yes.” And that’s what we will take up next week. In the meantime, think about it. Ping me if you have done something that has worked well enough to “change your pastor’s mind” about ministering to men.
Together in the Battle for Men’s Souls,