What Do Men Want? Part 2
Last week I presented a list of the three things I think men want…
- Something they can give their lives to—a cause
- Someone to share it with—relationships
- A System that gives a reasonable explanation for why 1 and 2 are so difficult
In that Weekly Briefing we explored #1. This week let’s talk about #2.
It’s no secret that men are more task-oriented and women are more relationship-oriented. Any one who ever attended a Labor Day picnic knows this. The men huddle up to exaggerate about football and cars, while the women gather to cluck about their children.
I realize these are stereotypes, but stereotypes work because they are generally true. For example, which of the following would you most likely assign to a man and which to a woman?
- Head and heart
- Logic and feeling
- Task and relationship
- Provider and nurturer
All this said, men are relationship-oriented too, if not mainly. And some men thrive on relationships. Even the most hardened taskmaster will be a lonely fool if he has nobody with whom to share his joys and sorrows.
That’s why in the great movies, the hero always repairs to his love interest so she can share in his victory or console his defeat. A man goes out and hunts his bear, but then brings it home to get approval from his wife. Oswald Chambers put it like this: “The last sign of intimacy is to share secret joys.”
The party will be over soon. There will only be two rocking chairs sitting side by side. Doesn’t it make sense to invest today in the woman who will be sitting next to you then?
No amount of success at work will ever be adequate to compensate for failure at home. Let’s disciple our men to prove their love by the way they spend their time. Let’s teach them to give time to whom time is due.
For the glory of Christ and no other reason…