Let’s Not Leave A Single Man Behind
A Special Message from Brett Clemmer,
Vice-President of Man in the Mirror
I got an email from Steve, a friend of the ministry recently. A statement he made caught me like a punch in the stomach: “As a 47-year-old man who has never married, I long ago realized that my spiritual growth as a single was pretty much entirely up to me.”
My reaction, to be honest, was a little defensive. Maybe yours is too. But after a deep breath or two, I realized he was right.
We often talk about how men in the church resemble an “unreached people group.” In most churches, we mention marriage and fathering enough to give some connection points to married men and men who are dads. But for single guys? Not so much. So I asked Steve, “How can we do a better job of reaching single men and speaking to their needs?”
Here are three points he made:
Acknowledge our existence! The more often single men are explicitly addressed in your ministry, the more you will communicate to them that there’s a place for them in the church.
Encourage older married men to intentionally foster friendships with younger single men. In most churches, married men only form relationships with other married men. But in my experience, the most significant thing that can happen to keep a young man involved in church after college graduation is for an older man to take an interest in him. When single men feel connected to families in the church, they feel connected to the church.
Involve single men in leadership roles wherever and whenever it is appropriate. Many churches and Christian organizations treat unmarried men like overgrown teenagers, regardless of their age, maturity, or life situation. It’s as if you have to get married before anyone will believe you can be a responsible adult!
This is not just about young guys. As many as 20% of American men will never get married. That is a huge number of men that will never fully relate to a sermon or Bible study on marriage or family – over 20 million!
Is your church effectively reaching and ministering to single men? Let me know what you’re doing to help this segment of men come to Christ and grow spiritually. Send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. Single, married, widowed or divorced – let’s make sure we leave no man behind!
Yours for changed lives,
Vice-President, Man in the Mirror