225 – How to Lead a Man to Christ
Excerpt from A Man’s Guide to the Spiritual Disciplines
Today millions of men in America woke up ready to hear a credible explanation of how Christian faith could change their futile lives. Most of these men will go to bed tonight without getting one. Here are fives steps you can take to discipline yourself to be a soul winner.
STEP ONE: Pray for men. Ask God to put “prepared” men on your heart.
Two steps need more ink. First, you should be able to give him the testimony of how you became a Christian. Second, you should be able to show him God’s plan of salvation in the Bible.
How To Give Your Testimony
The example of your changed life will (usually) do more to “draw” a man toward Jesus than anything else. My apologetics professor in seminary said, “Despite all the intellectual arguments for the existence of God, still the most powerful argument of all is a changed life.” However, it is not enough for men to see you are different–they need to know why. For that, you will have to speak.
Once you’ve listened and sense a man knows you are on his side, give him your testimony. Your own story is 100 times more powerful than telling him the “theology” of Christianity alone. Be prepared to do this in not more than 10 minutes, but also in three minutes if the time is short. In equal time segments tell him three things:
A CHALLENGE: If you want to get serious about sharing Christ with men (or already are), don’t shoot from the hip. Take a couple of hours and write out, time, practice, and memorize a three-minute testimony. Pick words that sparkle and emote. Mark Twain said, “A powerful agent is the right word.” And you already know what would happen if Michael Jordan didn’t practice. Write your first draft here:
How to Segue to the Gospel
If it is not already clear to you ask, “(Name), has there ever been a time in your life when you have personally put your faith in Christ to forgive your sins and receive the gift of eternal life?”
If ‘yes,’ ask him to describe it. If he can give a clear testimony, congratulate him. If not, proceed as though he answered ‘no.’
If ‘no,’ say, “May I take a few minutes and explain what Christians believe about who Jesus is, why He came, and what believing in Him means?”
Then, read him a gospel tract. Personally, I just read men The Four Spiritual Laws tract published by Campus Crusade for Christ. (You can get them at Christian bookstores. Also, most denominations and many other ministries also offer tracts). That’s right. I just read it to them without embellishment or side comments.
In fact, since I’ve read through it word for word with men so often, sometimes my mind will wander and think about things I need to get done during the day ahead. And it makes no difference. In fact, in one way it is evidence that it is God doing the saving rather than my persuasiveness injected into the calculus of trying to save this man. It is simply allowing the gospel to be the gospel.
Or if you prefer to not use a tract, you can look up the following verses and read them together. Make sure he reads the words for himself, whether silently or out loud.
Idea: Mark Bible pages you want to look up with Post Its. Number them 1, 2, 3, and so on.
1. Who is Jesus?
2. Why did Jesus come?
3. What does belief in Jesus mean?
4. How do you become a follower of Jesus?
Tell your man, “Nothing we do can ever make us good enough for God to love us. Instead, He loves us because He made us and Jesus died for our sins. We become a Christian by confessing that we are sinful and putting faith in Jesus to forgive of our sins and by grace give us the gift of eternal life. Prayer is the way we talk to God. Here is a suggested prayer.
“Lord Jesus, I need you in my life. I confess that I am sinful and that I need a Savior. Thank you for dying for my sins. Thank you for offering me the gift of eternal life. By faith I now put my trust in you to forgive my sins and give me the gift of eternal salvation. I invite you to change me and make me the man you want me to be. Amen.”
After reading the prayer out loud, ask him if this prayer expresses the desire of his heart. If he says, “Yes,” then ask him to pray it out loud after you one phrase at a time. Congratulate him. Offer to help him grow. Invite him to church. Encourage him to share what he has done with loved ones. See if he would feel comfortable sharing it right away with someone in your presence. Make it a celebratory moment–on earth as it is in heaven.
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FOR DISCUSSION AND APPLICATION
Prepare your own three-minute testimony and share it with men in your group as a role play.
Are there any other scriptural truths you would include in your presentation of the gospel? If so, which ones?