|Written by Patrick Morley|
|Monday, April 04 2011 00:00|
Excerpted from Pastoring Men, Moody Publishers.
Former Wyoming Senator Alan Simpson said, "If you have integrity nothing else matters. If you don't have integrity nothing else matters." I'm sure women struggle with integrity too, but my experience leads me to conclude men have more temptations than women in an average day. For example, to lie to get a sale, not work a full day, "borrow" supplies, fudge on expenses, not report all the income, look at pornography, and cheat all are temptations for men.
Most observers agree we are in the middle of an integrity crisis. I personally know dishonesty is rampant among the clerks and cashiers where I get my Starbucks and movie tickets--because they often try to give me a price break as though, together, we are "sticking it to the man."
I get nervous when I hear a message or read a book that exhorts me to behave my way out of a situation I have believed my way into. For example, if a man doesn't think that it's necessary to tithe, that there's nothing wrong with "looking at the menu" when it comes to women other than his wife, or that there's nothing wrong with little white lies--it's doubtful that a "behavior modification" scheme is going to change him long term.
Belief determines behavior. To change behavior we need a "belief modification" plan. To say it even better, we need a "heart transformation" plan (review topic 32, "The Heart"). Easily the greatest contribution we can make to a man is to help him change the core affections of his heart. Any such plan, for the Christian, necessarily starts with the Bible. So here's a good, believer's definition of integrity: "Integrity is a one-to-one correlation between my Bible, my belief, and my behavior."
For More: Go to www.pastoringmen.com and click on "35. Integrity" to see or hear "Integrity: What's the Price?" or "Leading a Secret Thought Life" in The Man in the Mirror Remix series.
Patrick Morley, PhD
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