467 – Do You Want a Mentor?
Recently a man who wants a mentor asked, “Who is the older man, and what does he look like?”
If you would like a mentor consider this. You probably already know him, you respect his walk, you want what he has. If you don’t look up to a man, how could he be the one?
Tell him how much you admire him and invite him for lunch or breakfast to ask him a few questions about his walk. Don’t lean in too hard and violate the normal process of relationships. Just lunch. If it goes well, ask if you can meet again. Do this a few times and then, if you want, ask him if he would be willing to mentor you. The exception? If he accelerates and asks you!
What if he says no? Give grace–a guy was just upset with me because I wouldn’t mentor him. I couldn’t. When he asked I was already at full capacity. He was immature about it. That’s okay. I prayed he would find a better one and trust God to do that.
You’ll find you’re not the only one who wants to be around the men you admire. So you may need to ask more than one man. If one man can’t, don’t get discouraged or take it personally. Only about 10% of men are really leading powerful lives transformed by Jesus, so the field is big enough but not huge. You’ll find the right guy.
You’ll know you’ve found the right man when your mentor does for you what mine did for me. Jim Gillean saw something in me that I didn’t see in myself. He allowed me to be part of his small group. What really got me was that he believed in me more than I believed in myself. He spoke words of encouragement that I’d never heard before. That released something inside me. He gave me a vision to become the man God created me to be. That released the power to become a man I didn’t even know was there. I needed that so much. So do you and you can find that. It may take a little perseverance. I’m praying for you.
P.S. If you want to read more: http://www.maninthemirror.org/a-look-in-the-mirror/205-mentoring-younger-men