The Five Types of Men You Must Be Prepared to Reach
You’ve got men, you’ve got a church. Add a testimony, some pancakes, a prayer, and—poof—a men’s ministry. Right?
Not if you are trying to disciple every man. Men need to be reached where they are spiritually. A man who has little spiritual interest won’t be interested in a 40-week Bible Study, and a mature Christian needs more than softball teams and Super Bowl parties. A man who just lost his job or a loved one needs comfort—not teaching or fun activities.
Use these five categories to think about which activities will reach which men:
- Natural men. Men with little or no spiritual interest. They come when they have to—for holidays, weddings and funerals—or because they are keeping the peace with their wife.
- Cultural Christians. These are men with one foot inside and one foot outside the church. Perhaps they grew up in the church and so now just go through the motions. Or church is a social gathering or gives them a place to ensure their kids get some moral instruction. They are present, but not engaged or interested in spiritual growth.
- Biblical Christians. These men are disciples or want to be disciples. They are interested in spiritual growth and want to lead their families well. These men are the ones who join small groups and classes, and often serve throughout the church. These are the easiest men to reach because they want to grow in their faith.
- Servant leaders. These men are actively engaged in helping others grow in their faith. They are a subset of your Biblical Christians, more advanced in their faith and looking for opportunities to serve, teach, mentor and lead.
- Hurting men. This is a subset of the previous four groups. These men are often “stuck” because of an acute or ongoing crisis or need that must be addressed so that they can continue on their spiritual journey. Whether it’s an addiction issue, grieving, financial, health or marriage crisis, the gospel can be brought to bear in a meaningful way as it informs our caring.
For a men’s ministry to be successful it must address the needs of each of these five groups. The goal should always be to point men to opportunities to rise to the next level of growth.
Here’s a way for your church to engage each type of man right away. Then show him the appropriate next step, based on where he is on his spiritual journey; Man in the Mirror will equip you with ways to do that.