Ask any man who is deeply involved with a men’s ministry about his most impactful memories and experiences, and he’s likely to mention a men’s retreat.
Whether it’s a once-in-a-lifetime high-intensity encounter week or an annual weekend of Bible study and wilderness exploration, planning a men’s retreat is one of the most rewarding endeavors we can undertake in men’s ministry. It’s not just about getting away for a few days of relaxation; it’s about creating a sacred space for men to encounter God, grow in faith, and strengthen the bonds of brotherhood.
We’ve seen firsthand how these retreats can spark transformation in men’s lives, helping them deepen their relationships with Christ and step into their God-given roles as husbands, fathers, and leaders.
If you’ve never planned a men’s retreat before, it might feel overwhelming. But take heart—there’s no perfect formula. What matters most is being intentional, prayerful, and willing to let God lead. Let’s walk through a few key steps together to help you plan a retreat that will leave a lasting mark on the men in your church and community.
1. Start with Prayer to Ask for Vision
Every successful retreat begins on your knees. Ask God for wisdom and clarity as you develop the vision for your retreat. What do you want the men to walk away with? Is it a renewed sense of purpose in their marriages? Greater accountability with one another? Deeper discipleship? Write down your goals for the retreat and pray continuously through the planning period for the Spirit to move in the hearts of those who attend. With God’s hand on your preparations, you can trust that your efforts will bear fruit.
James 1:5 reminds us, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” Seek the counsel of God and trust Him to provide direction for every detail.
Choose a central theme that highlights your goals and focuses on the spiritual needs of the men in your congregation. In our ministry, we’ve found that retreats centered around ideas like “Living with Integrity,” “Biblical Manhood,” or “Faith at Work” resonate deeply. You might consider using existing discipleship resources or devotionals to structure your sessions, especially materials that speak directly to the process of making disciples for Christ through relationships.
2. Build a Team and Delegate
You don’t have to do this alone. In fact, you shouldn’t. Put together a small team of men who are passionate about the retreat’s purpose. Delegate tasks like event planning, communication, hospitality, and leading worship. When everyone has ownership, the retreat becomes a shared ministry.
If you’re mentoring younger men in the faith, consider giving them roles to serve during the retreat. This aligns beautifully with Paul’s words to Timothy: “And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable people who will also be qualified to teach others” (2 Timothy 2:2). A retreat is a perfect opportunity to model servant leadership and foster mentorship.
3. Determine Location and Schedule
A retreat should be a place where men can unplug and connect with God. Look for venues that offer both comfort and solitude. Whether it’s a rustic cabin in the woods or a local retreat center, prioritize an environment that encourages reflection and fellowship.
Your schedule should balance teaching, worship, and activities that build camaraderie. Morning devotionals, small group discussions, and one-on-one prayer times create opportunities for deeper connection. Be sure to include time for men to unwind—whether it’s hiking, playing sports, or simply sitting around a campfire. Some of the most powerful conversations happen in those unscripted moments.
4. Make It Personal and Relational
Men’s retreats are about relationships—our relationship with God and our bonds with each other. Be intentional about creating space for authentic sharing. Small groups or breakout sessions can foster deeper conversations.
One of the core principles of biblical manhood is the importance of accountability and mentorship. Use the retreat to encourage men to find an accountability partner or mentor who can walk alongside them in their spiritual journey. As iron sharpens iron, so do we sharpen one another. (Proverbs 27:17)
5. Follow Up for Lasting Impact
A retreat is just the beginning. The real work happens after the men return home. Plan a follow-up strategy to keep the momentum going. Host a post-retreat gathering or start a small group study to build on the lessons learned.
Bible studies, mentorship programs, and regular men’s events allow you to continue growing as brothers in Christ and give you opportunities to draw new men into the group.
Change the World, One Man at a Time
Planning and leading a men’s retreat is no small task, but it’s worth every effort. You’re not just organizing an event—you’re investing in the spiritual lives of men and helping to shape the future of your church and community.
Christ’s church is not only a family, but a training ground where God shapes us, sharpens us, and equips us for battle through His word and the support and encouragement of other believers. A strong men’s ministry and focused growth opportunities like men’s retreats can play a powerful part in transforming every man, making him a leader who reflects the life and character of Christ. Take the leap and grow stronger in faith and friendship—one retreat, one conversation, one step at a time.
If you need guidance, resources, or support as you get started, reach out to Man in the Mirror. We welcome you to explore our tools for discipleship, mentorship, and building strong men’s ministries.
